tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post5030115537231677200..comments2023-04-06T08:38:19.504-05:00Comments on As Fast As My Baby Can: R.I.F.Kathleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14220592100816306178noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-90300403558906267672011-02-15T12:06:49.085-06:002011-02-15T12:06:49.085-06:00I'm the midst of trying to figure things out t...I'm the midst of trying to figure things out too, and I don't know what to do or say. I just want you to know that I'm thinking of you. HUGSLisaBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08662932656659080958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-21167454200801931242011-02-15T00:05:36.334-06:002011-02-15T00:05:36.334-06:00First of all, I don't agree with the "big...First of all, I don't agree with the "big failure" label. :) Second, I am frustrated for you in that after all this time and all the tests, there doesn't seem to be a clear answer as to WHY this hasn't happened for you guys yet. Thirdly, I agree with M. Hold off on the donor eggs and try two with a surrogate and one with you using intralipids. Now, I know nothing about that process, but Kristi's experience is certainly encouraging! I feel for you K, I wish I could wave a magic wand and have your baby drop into your lap (w/o a headache :)) and make all this IF pain go away....xoChermhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05936954291111191011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-64906338460496549622011-02-14T11:01:45.687-06:002011-02-14T11:01:45.687-06:00That is a lot to process.
I'm curious - does...That is a lot to process. <br /><br />I'm curious - does your RE have any insight into why, if your eggs actually *were* poor quality, you would have such high quality embryos? <br /><br />If you did want to go ahead with this FET cycle and, if you needed to, later move on to a GC, does your RE have a recommendation on how many to transfer? <br /><br />Like many things, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer in this. What does your gut say? <br /><br />Love you.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02452436879500530854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-29390596769883872362011-02-14T08:16:24.093-06:002011-02-14T08:16:24.093-06:00There are so many factors...It sucks that you have...There are so many factors...It sucks that you have to make such a hard decision. What does your RE think?Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.?https://www.blogger.com/profile/13930605269034903186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-24809336479906808502011-02-13T15:42:37.574-06:002011-02-13T15:42:37.574-06:00There is so much to digest and you laid it out so ...There is so much to digest and you laid it out so clearly. This is so incredibly hard because they can't tell you WHY it's not working. If you knew WHY, you could make much more informed decisions. Is there more "digging" you can do on the autoimmune front? I also think you have to ask yourself how you will feel if various scenarios played out and see which you feel you can live with and which you just can't. I know things are so hard right now and you just want clarity about next steps. You and B have done such a great job gaining clarity in the past and I have no doubt that you guys will think through everything and make a great decision.Infertile Farmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14306866429216088810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-72695857567361050622011-02-13T11:57:47.976-06:002011-02-13T11:57:47.976-06:00When we started down the IVF road I wanted to leav...When we started down the IVF road I wanted to leave no stone unturned. And being the researcher that I am, I did so much reading about endo and the immune system. I made a lot of sense to me and led me to Dr. Sher at SIRM. I also have endo and tested positive for one particular APA. While ultimately unsuccessful, I wanted to be able to look back and know that we did everything we could. Perhaps it's worth a consult with them or you could do a FET with lovenox, steroids and intralipids if you choose not to go the surrogate route.<br /><br />Best wishes to you. It's such a tough road we walk.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-64370598158643662982011-02-13T11:05:12.806-06:002011-02-13T11:05:12.806-06:00I love you Kathleen. You always say just the righ...I love you Kathleen. You always say just the right thing. I think we operate the same way!!!KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08989150563618588708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-45610543224971875472011-02-13T10:39:47.357-06:002011-02-13T10:39:47.357-06:00I am so sorry you are having to make these tough, ...I am so sorry you are having to make these tough, heart wrenching decisions. I have endo and high NKa cells and actually are planing on doing the infusion with our upcoming cycle. The IVIG that once was used, yes was/is/can be risky given it is a blood product, however the intralipids used now are a synthetic version and are quite safe. The 'risks' are actually less than that of the follistem/lupron used in the cycles. It obviously is not a garauntee but if you aren't ready to give up on the pregnancy aspect I think it is a viable option. SIRM institutes are the biggest supporters I have found and will give a free phone consult if you want more info on it. Also if you visit their website they have a blog that answers MANY questions related to the immune aspect of infertility. <br />Like i said, I am not completely sold on it (some think it's hocus pocus) but I have read many a blogs that had immune issues and after multiple failures, used intralipids and held a pregnancy. I am at the point where we are going to do everything we can to up our chances this time bc we don't have an endless pot of money or the finances for surrogate :( <br />This is a touch decision and your gut is going to have to lead you....sooo sorry and here if you need anything! xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-91922807476574807192011-02-12T22:09:57.446-06:002011-02-12T22:09:57.446-06:00I think part of the question now becomes -- do you...I think part of the question now becomes -- do you want to be pregnant or do you want to be a mom? Part of what makes this process extra painful is that each time it doesn't work, not only are you disappointed by the lack of an impending child, you're also increasingly frustrated with your own body. Taking your body out of the equation doesn't make you feel any better about the slow road to parenthood, but it does help to take your focus off of feeling like a "failure". Ultimately, only you and B can make the best decision for your future and although it would be nice if we could just peek into the future and see the path that will eventually work for us, it's the traveling of that path that makes the end of the infertlity journey so powerful and so sweet. What does your gut say? (oh, and don't try to make a final decision this week. You're still too close and the "just one more time" temptation will override everything else.). :)abcgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593605851309123829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-2587733527944489842011-02-12T19:30:00.304-06:002011-02-12T19:30:00.304-06:00I wish I had all the answers....and endless funds....I wish I had all the answers....and endless funds. Prior to the MAJOR emotional upheaval these last couple of days, you and B decided that this was THE last time you'd try with your body. My suggestion would be to find a GS, because your embryos look stellar. And the baby would be your genetic baby (potential blonde hair and long legs)....no donor anything. Just my thoughts. ;-) Love you, babe. xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-2657760144808402162011-02-12T16:37:00.362-06:002011-02-12T16:37:00.362-06:00Well you know for us we had 4 recurrent miscarriag...Well you know for us we had 4 recurrent miscarriages and prior to that went through fertility tx for 4yrs...Then I met Dr.Kwak Kim in Vernon Hills, IL...who is a Reproductive Immuniologist's....I was also dx with mild NK cell issues after our third loss but was told by my old RE in Indy that it wasnt a big deal...Well he was def wrong....With each loss immune issues became worse and worse...After my first visit with Dr.Kwak I had more answers than I ever have had in my life....She used to be partners with Dr. Alan Beer who wrote is you body baby friendly...I would def read this book might give you new insight that Immune tx are not Hokey but in fact are the answer for some....I would not be 38wks prego today without Dr.Kwaks tx's...no way no how because I was like you I tried everything before seeing her...So that would be my advice to you...I know most insurance plans she does except so I would set up a consultation and see what you find out...I think you might be surprised:) Wishing you nothing but the best!!!Nick and Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14537407923580887602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-40188183804109877472011-02-12T15:38:04.216-06:002011-02-12T15:38:04.216-06:00I am thinking about the EXACT same issues. My mom...I am thinking about the EXACT same issues. My mom and sister have volunteered to be gestational carriers...although neither is ideal. My mom is 58 and my sister has diabetes and herpes...<br /><br />Wanna talk? Email me: dcrunningmamablog at gmail dot com. We can be miserable together.RunningMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16269598643448280554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-10768008906213036392011-02-12T12:15:19.378-06:002011-02-12T12:15:19.378-06:00I am so sorry that you are experiencing this pain....I am so sorry that you are experiencing this pain. I am in the exact same position as you. I have done 5 FET and had one chemical pregnancy and one took that I lost at 7 weeks.<br /><br />I have now moved onto seeing a reproductive immuniologist. I too have high NK cells and tested positive of APA. I will be under her care along with a reproductive immuniologist for my next fresh IVF cycle. Is this an option for you to look into?<br /><br />Take care of you and try to hang in there. This road is very difficult and very unfair.<br /><br />Kimkimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17251394499043150181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-71228851133211373312011-02-12T11:33:40.408-06:002011-02-12T11:33:40.408-06:00No real advice...we went through five fresh cycles...No real advice...we went through five fresh cycles and one frozen cycle and all they could agree on was it seemed that my eggs weren't great (one time they looked dark and grainy too) and our embryos weren't exactly stellar. We skipped over donor eggs because I ran out of steam for any more medical treatment--I had a supreme distrust of my body. We moved into international adoption and at the risk of sounding cliche, it feels like the path we were meant to take. <br />Trying to figure out options and routes to take is exhausting--I hope you get a clearer sense of things and mostly find peace with whatever road you take.MyTwoLineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488860357456329714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-35556523200977821492011-02-12T11:10:05.953-06:002011-02-12T11:10:05.953-06:00I certainly hope that the road becomes clearer soo...I certainly hope that the road becomes clearer soon. For me, it comes down to Time, Money, and Pain Tolerance. Number 2 and 3 are starting to take a heavy toll, so I know I will be asking the same questions after my next (last!) cycle with my eggs and my body. I wish I knew the answer.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11601244401069316862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-43910722840175380282011-02-12T10:52:50.928-06:002011-02-12T10:52:50.928-06:00This sucks! I hate that you don't have the an...This sucks! I hate that you don't have the answers you want and need. It is so overwhelming and there is no clear next step. I wish there was something that I could do or say that would make things better! I am thinking about you and wishing you clarity!!!KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08989150563618588708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-46622702850420169792011-02-12T10:41:47.910-06:002011-02-12T10:41:47.910-06:00So much to take in here, Kathleen. I can sure see ...So much to take in here, Kathleen. I can sure see why you are feeling frustrated, weary, and and confused. The really shitty thing is that they can't nail down a good reason why you haven't been able to get pregnant, so that makes it so much more difficult to figure out what your next step is. My advice would be to take some time to really figure out where you want to go from here. We'll all be supporting you 100%!Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05896010219423867907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3984035882609610303.post-25893336564563792182011-02-12T10:39:21.735-06:002011-02-12T10:39:21.735-06:00Oh Kat... I wish I had the answers!! I wish I had ...Oh Kat... I wish I had the answers!! I wish I had an extra $20,000 to toss your direction, I wish I had an egg or womb to spare. This shit sucks!!!<br /><br />What's the likelihood of finding and funding a surrogate? Crap - I'd do it in a heartbeat if I could!!<br /><br />I am here with you and for you....Babystepshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887687246851640547noreply@blogger.com